How and Why Can Cremated Remains Be Divided?

Step-by-Step Guide for Transferring or Dividing Cremated Remains

If your funeral or cremation provider cannot assist in dividing remains, or you prefer to do this yourself, you can do so carefully at home. Follow this step-by-step guide to ensure a smooth and respectful process.

1. Gather Your Supplies

Before starting, prepare the following items:

• Newspaper or towel (to catch any spilled remains)
• A funnel or folded piece of paper (for transferring small amounts into jewelry or keepsakes)
• A mask and gloves (optional but helpful for comfort)
• Plastic bags (if using new ones for portioning)
• Urn, keepsake, or memorial item
• Glue (if sealing an urn)

2. How to Transfer the Ashes

Use the following steps to transfer ashes into a single display urn or keepsake. Most adult-sized urns can hold the ashes of an individual who weighed 200 pounds or less in life (about 200 cubic inches).

1. Transfer the entire plastic bag of ashes into the new urn.
2. Pour ashes from the existing plastic bag into the new urn by cutting a small hole in a corner.
3. Use a clean plastic bag inside the new urn and pour the remains into it for additional protection.

3. How to Divide Ashes

If you plan to divide the ashes into multiple containers or keepsakes, follow these steps:

1. Lay down the newspaper or towel and set out all containers.
2. Wear gloves and a mask if desired for comfort.
3. Open the temporary urn carefully and remove the plastic bag of remains.
4. Portion the ashes carefully by scooping small amounts into keepsakes or urns using a funnel or folded paper.
5. Seal keepsakes or urns as needed with a secure lid or adhesive glue.
6. Retain the metal identification tag that comes with the ashes and keep records for clarity.

When finished, clean the area, dispose of the newspaper, and wash your hands. Take a deep breath — you have honored your loved one in a meaningful way.

Ensuring Proper Identification of Cremated Remains

To prevent confusion, always keep identification information with the ashes. Consider these methods:

• Keep the metal tag that comes with the ashes.
• Label urns and keepsakes with the deceased’s name and date of passing.
• Place a note with identifying details inside the urn.

Finding Comfort in Memorialization and Scattering

Whether you choose to keep ashes in jewelry, transform them into keepsake stones, or scatter them in significant places, these acts can provide comfort and closure. Research shows that having a tangible memorial can assist with grief and help family members reflect on cherished memories.

If you're considering scattering ashes in multiple locations, follow local regulations and obtain any necessary permissions. For more resources, we recommend reading Cremation Jewelry: A Growing Trend or What To Do with Your Loved One’s Ashes. If you have any questions or need personalized assistance, find a location near you. We are here to help guide you through your options with care and understanding.